Malawians never seemed to be short of an excuse to celebrate, and they did it in style.
On my first weekend in Mitawa, I was invited to two weddings, one on Saturday and one on Sunday. I was told later that July, just after the harvest, is a popular time for weddings. The Saturday wedding was between the neice of my teaching colleague, Mr Juma, and the medical assistant from the nearby health centre. It was in the nearby village of Malenga, about 3 km away – not to be confused with Malenga school which was much further away! The bride was a Muslim, so this was an Islamic wedding, but the groom was a Christian who seems to have converted to Islam for the day for the purposes of the wedding. I went to the wedding with my host mother (my father had to go to a funeral elsewhere), Mac my interpreter, and Clement and Madalitso my charming escorts. A fellow guest was Jill, another Global Teacher from the next school along the road – it was good to chat and share experiences. The wedding was very colourful and very much a village affair attended by just about everyone from all the surrounding villages. When we arrived, a troup of dancers and singers were giving an energetic performance involving a lot of jumping and stamping. How they keep it up in the heat I have no idea – it went on for several hours apparently, with few breaks. Jill and I, along with the rest of our entourages, were invited to meet the bride at her house and were given lunch there (lunch no.1 as it turned out). After a while, the noise of the crowds outside grew louder, and we came out to see the groom emerging from another house – he processed through the crowd to the bride’s house under an umbrella (to keep the sun off?). She then came out, under another umbrella, and they both processed to the mosque. The marriage took place sitting on a mat under a tent erected outside the mosque – I assume it is not inside because men and women are segregated inside – with just the immediate family members, the rest of us watching from a distance. After the marriage, the couple moved to another tent (blankets and mats over poles) for a lot of speeches and lots more singing and dancing. Interestingly, throughout the whole thing, lasting several hours, I never saw the bride and groom speak to each other and most of the time they sat with downcast eyes. Meanwhile, our party were taken by Mr Juma for another lunch – it really was difficult to keep up with the food consumption and not cause offence. Outside, the celebrations were still in full swing, and were still going strong when we left to walk back to our village.
For the Sunday wedding, the bride was a relative of my host family and, as my father was the chief, the wedding celebration was at our house. Again, it was a Muslim wedding but rather different from the previous day. Celebrations started the previous evening – many relatives had come from Lilongwe and they all packed into the small front room of the house to chat. The singers and dancers were also there with their chanting, jumping and stamping going on outside the door. Indeed they kept this up all night, mostly right outside my bedroom window. I confess that by 3 am I had completely lost interest in new cultural experiences and was very grumpy. I think everyone else simply stayed up all night, including the children – certainly they were all out there enjoying the fun when I gave up the battle for sleep at about 5.30 am and went to join them. During the morning, a shelter of poles, blankets and mats was erected outside our house for the later celebrations. Then I went with my host mother to relatives from where we saw the bride depart for the mosque – only this time she travelled by gallimoto (car). The groom also went to the mosque in a separate car – it was quite a sight to see these vehicles crawling along the footpaths, surrounded by dancers, singers and other supporters – cars were a rare sight in the village on other occasions. After the marriage, they came by car to our house. This time, I was one of the official guests and had to sit in the official tent, along with Clement and Madalitso who translated what was happening for me. Proceedings started with a very long reading from the Qu-ran – it was written in arabic but spoken in the local language which must have been quite a challenge. The reading was interspersed with songs and dances, mainly by the women. Then came the main business of the day – the giving of money to set up the couple in their new home – firstly by anyone who wished to, then by named individuals who had registered to do this – it seemd a rather ostentatious display of wealth to European eyes. Bundles of banknotes were scattered about casually by the donors and scrabbled for by those collecting on behalf of the couple. With lots of encouragement, almost 40,000 Kwacha was given – about £150, a very large sum in Malawi where average annual earnings are about £300. While the money was being counted, the gifts were displayed – very practical gifts such as plates, cups, nsima spoon and stirrer for the new home, but also tea, soap…..and a Scottish tea towel! This marked the end of proceedings, the gallimoto was summoned and the young couple driven off into the dusk.
The following weekend, we climbed the mountain behind the school, and agin it was more of a party than anything else. In the end, I think 9 of us headed off: myself, Mr Chimtali, Mr Juma, Clement, Madalitso, Mac, Sefu and Sunje (from my host family) and another lad whose name I never found out. We bought some sticks of sugar cane as we went through the village, which the boys carried, and then headed up. It took little more than an hour, but there was no path as such and the grass was above my head a lot of the time. Madalitso used a large knife to hack a way through at times. We were very jubilant when we reached the top, especially as none of the party had ever been up before – apparently our celebrations were noticed in the village. Unfortunately it was rather hazy, but even so the views of the surrounding mountains were splendid. The knife was then used to cut up the sugar cane for us to suck.
The next day, Sunday afternoon, I went to a political rally for the governing party, the DDP. I’m not sure if this is the sort of thing Global Teachers are supposed to do, but I rather stood out, so having gone for a look with Mr Chimtali, we were ushered into the official tent with the Minister of Agriculture, the National Women’s Leader, the Provincial Governor, the District Commisioner and all the local chiefs! You might not think that a political rally and celebrations naturally go together, but in Malawi…. The DDP are apparently not very popular in that area of Malawi, most people supporting the opposition UDP, so they had gone to a lot of trouble to make this a special event: vehicles and generators had been brought in to power a sophisticated PA system and even the TV cameras were there. Then before the speeches, once again there was a real celebration of Malawian culture in song and dance. I’m not sure that the speeches themselves were any different to political speeches anywhere – lots of promises….
At various other times, I visited other teachers and relatives of my hosts in their homes. Always, I was made comfortable and special food and drinks were prepared for me, then all the family and neighbours came round to chat and have their photos taken (thank goodness for digital cameras). Before I left, I was often given gifts…some sweet potatoes, or some ground nuts, or some bananas, or some lemons, or some sugar cane…their generosity was boundless.
My visit to Mlozi School was also a good excuse for celebrations. I think the significance of most of what happened at my Welcome Ceremony passed me by, but fortunately I took some video clips on my camera. There were speeches, poems, songs, dances and acrobatics. It is only when I looked back of these that I started to realise that many of them were very personal to me and were especially composed for the occasion. The Head Teacher pointed out to me all the people who had come along – it seemed like most of the village, but included all the chiefs, the School Management Committee and Parent Teacher Association and many of the parents. By the time of my Farewell Ceremony, I knew all the participants much better and none of the significance of their contributions was lost on me. There were more poems, acrobatics and dances and heart-breaking farewell songs. One group of boys, that I dubbed the rock band, had taken their electronic keyboard, homemade electric guitar and speaker to the health centre to charge it up using the solar panel there, then lugged it all the way back to school to play their specially composed songs for me. The choir had learned a song in English composed by one of the teachers. A pupil, Emma, recited a poem composed by the Head Teacher about the significance of my visit to the school. I listened to speech after speech from the Chief, the School Management Committee, the Head Teacher about how the Scottish Government should let me stay… Once again, it seemed that the whole village had turned out. This time, there were presentations too. The school gave me a pair of beautiful carved pictures by a local artist, one for me and one for my school in Scotland. I gave the school a Scottish flag to hang up to remember me by. Afterwards, the staff, School Management Committe, PTA and Chief retired for refreshments with a Scottish flavour – shortbread (washed down with Coke/Fanta – a treat for them on special occasions). They certainly know how to make you feel good about yourself.